Why I started the Survivor’s Pen:
“I will tell my story while I live – because when I die, someone else will speak my words” _ Spokn
I didn’t start writing for attention. I started because I was drowning in silence. The pen was the only thing that listened without judgment — and eventually, it became the loudest voice I had.
The Breaking Point
I created The Survivor’s Pen after surviving narcissistic abuse, spiritual manipulation, and homelessness. I had escaped the physical places of harm — but the words, silence, and shame lived inside me. I needed a way to heal that didn’t require performance or perfection.
Why I Chose to Write Publicly
Sharing my story publicly wasn’t easy. But hiding it wasn’t healing me. I wanted other women — especially survivors — to know they’re not crazy, too sensitive, or too broken. We are human. And our healing matters.
What This Space Means to Me
This isn’t just a blog. It’s a lifeline. A digital journal of scars, truths, breakthroughs, and confessions. A place for women who have been silenced to write back.
“My voice is no longer buried in silence- it rises with every word I write”.
If you’re holding your breath trying to survive… let’s exhale together.
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My Story: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse and Homelessness
“I didn’t just survive- I rewrote the story”. – Spokn
There was a time I thought survival was the finish line.
Until I realized I was still carrying everything I had survived.
I was married to a man who wore a mask — a narcissistic pastor who manipulated scripture and silenced me with control. He used God’s name to dim my light, isolate me from family, and strip me of financial power.
When I finally left, I wasn’t just leaving a marriage. I was leaving spiritual warfare.
I was homeless — holding my baby, my brokenness, and a pen.
The Fall
They didn’t see the nights I cried in shelters or slept in borrowed beds with a newborn on my chest.
They didn’t hear the voice notes I whispered to myself just to stay sane.
I had no job. No savings. Just trauma, shame… and silence.
But God did.
Writing did.
The Rise
I found healing in the pages. I found voice in the journaling.
I found me again — not the version I had to perform as, but the real, raw, unfiltered truth-teller I had buried.
That’s why I created The Survivor’s Pen.
Not for perfect stories — but for healing ones. For stories that still shake, still cry, still rise.
To Any Woman Reading This
If you’ve ever been silenced, displaced, or dismissed — I see you.
You’re not broken. You’re rebuilding.
You’re not too sensitive. You’re spiritually gifted.
And you’re not alone. We heal out loud over here.
“The pen didn’t just speak- it saved what was left of me”. – Spokn
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3 Tool That Helped Me heal From Financial Trauma
“I didn’t lose everything. I found myself beneath what was taken” – Spokn
I didn’t just suffer financially — I suffered emotionally.
Money wasn’t just numbers; it was tied to silence, survival, and sacrifice.
When I left abuse, I didn’t just leave a house — I left behind the illusion of security.
But with every overdraft and every tear-stained budget sheet, I began writing my way into wholeness. Here are 3 tools that helped me rebuild not just my finances, but my freedom.
1. Journaling for Financial Clarity
I started writing out where my money came from and how it made me feel.
Every time I spent in fear, or avoided checking my bank account, I’d write about it. I realized I wasn’t just afraid of being broke — I was afraid of being powerless again.
Prompt:
What memory comes to mind when I think of “not enough”?
2. Creating an Emotional Budget
I stopped budgeting only dollars and cents. I started budgeting my energy.
Every financial choice was costing me emotional bandwidth — and I had to learn to prioritize my peace over performance.
Affirmation: “Peace is more profitable than pretending.”
3. Setting Boundaries With Guilt Spending
I used to say “yes” when I wanted to say “I can’t.”
Financial trauma taught me to tie my worth to giving — even when it hurt me.
Now I check in with myself before I check out at the store.
Tool: Create a “Permission Slip” — something I wrote in my journal that said:
“I give myself permission to keep what I earn and rest without guilt.”
You’re Not Failing. You’re Rebuilding.
Healing financial trauma means looking deeper than debt. It means rewriting the narrative.
And baby, I’m the author now.
“Even in silence my story found a way to speak”. – Spokn
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How Inner Child Healing Led Me to Life Coaching
“She was silent but she still believed in me”.
” I didn’t just find my purpose- I answered the younger me who kept whispering don’t give up”.
There was a time I didn’t speak — not because I had nothing to say, but because I didn’t know if it was safe to be heard.
The silence wasn’t weakness. It was survival.
But deep inside me, a version of myself was still writing. Still watching. Still believing that one day, I would come back for her.
That little girl with the journal and the swollen emotions is the reason I became a coach.
I didn’t build a business, I built a bridge back to myself — and now I help other women do the same.
Because inner child work isn’t just about the past — it’s about finally giving your story a safe place to land.
As a trauma-informed Emotional Wellness & Empowerment Life Coach, I guide women and teen girls who’ve experienced emotional trauma or narcissistic abuse to rediscover their voice, rebuild their confidence, and rise with resilience.
Through a healing-centered and emotionally safe approach, I help my clients move from survival to self-leadership—equipping them with the tools to set boundaries, own their truth, and walk in clarity and purpose.
What My Coaching Offers:
• A safe, judgment-free space to be fully seen and heard.
• Inner child journaling + identity work rooted in emotional healing.
• Reflective prompts that help you stop shrinking and start reclaiming yourself.
• Emotional detox tools to release guilt, shame, and stuck survival patterns.
• Boundary-building scripts and confidence-boosting affirmations.
• Gentle, strategic support from a coach who gets it — and doesn’t let you quit.
• A path to rewrite your story, not just survive it.
- And More..
“She was silent. But she still believed in me.”
I became the coach I needed.
And now I’m here for you, too.
Book a FIGHT Back Session or learn more about Resilient Minds Coaching.
“The version of me that survived deserves to speak. I wont silence her anymore”. – Spokn
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