3 Things Keeping You Spiritually & Emotionally Tired (Even After Leaving the Narcissist)

“You left the chaos, but your soul is still whispering: ‘I’m not safe.’”

You escaped the narcissist. You cut the ties. You’re breathing again—finally.

But if you’re honest? You still wake up tired. Not just in your body… in your spirit.

It’s not that you’re ungrateful for your freedom. You just didn’t expect the freedom to feel this heavy.

Let me say this:

Surviving narcissistic abuse drains your nervous system, but staying in survival mode after the abuse?

That’s what keeps you spiritually exhausted.

Here are 3 hidden reasons why:

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1. You Mistook Silence for Peace

You thought if you just got away and shut everything down—quiet house, no drama, no phone calls—you’d finally feel peace.

But peace isn’t just the absence of noise.

Peace is the presence of safety, and your nervous system doesn’t believe you’re safe yet.

That’s why your body still flinches at the sound of a text message.

That’s why your brain keeps scanning for danger—even in rooms where there’s no threat.

What to do instead:

Start rebuilding peace through gentle, repetitive, regulating rituals: journaling, walking, prayer, or breathwork with movement. Let your body experience calm, not just think it.

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2. You Still Believe “Time Heals Everything”

Sis… no it doesn’t. Time exposes what’s been hidden. But healing? Healing is what you do with what time reveals.

Waiting for the pain to pass without processing it is like standing in a burning room and hoping the fire goes out on its own.

You have to walk through the smoke.

Write about it. Grieve it. Speak it. Scream it if you need to.

But don’t pretend numbness means healing. That’s survival, not restoration.

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3. You’re Trying to ‘Heal Quietly’ So You Don’t Inconvenience Anyone

You’re scared of being too much. Of still being broken. Of not being the strong one anymore.

So you journal in secret. Cry in your car.

You show up online polished, while your soul is bleeding behind closed doors.

Let me say this loud:

Healing isn’t loud or quiet. It’s sacred.

It deserves to be seen.

You deserve to be held—mess and all.

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You’re Not Lazy. You’re Not Weak. You’re In Recovery.

You didn’t just leave a person.

You left a war zone.

And now, your spirit is rebuilding itself brick by brick, memory by memory, breath by breath.

Here’s what I want you to remember:

Healing doesn’t start when you leave.

It starts when you stop performing strength… and start giving yourself permission to be safe.

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Ready to Begin Again—With Support?

You don’t have to heal alone.

If you’re ready to stop performing strength and start rebuilding safety, I created a space just for you.

My 1-on-1 Resilient Minds Life Coaching sessions are designed for women healing from emotional trauma, narcissistic abuse, and silent spiritual exhaustion.

We go deep.

We don’t rush.

And we make room for your story to rise.

Book a FIGHT Back Session today — and let’s start your healing reset together.

(Includes pre-session journal guide + affirmation card)

 

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