Healing theWound of Validation: A Journey Back to Your Inner Child

“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you”. ~ John 14:18

There are wounds that don’t bleed, but still ache daily.

The wound of validation is one of them.

If you’ve ever questioned your worth unless someone else confirmed it…

If silence feels like rejection…

If you shrink when you’re not praised, or overextend yourself to earn love…

You may be carrying a validation wound born in childhood.

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What Does a Validation Wound Look Like?

Validation wounds form early.

They often come from inconsistent parenting, criticism without comfort, or being taught that love is earned — not given freely.

Here are a few signs you may still be living through that wound:

• Feeling crushed by even small criticism

• Overachieving just to feel seen

• Struggling to make decisions without external approval

• Fearing you are “too much” or “not enough” in every room

• Questioning your value unless someone praises you

This is not weakness.

This is unhealed pain speaking through performance, silence, and exhaustion.

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How to Gently Nurture the Wound

Validation doesn’t have to come from the outside anymore.

Your inner child still lives within you — waiting not for applause, but for acknowledgment.

Here are gentle ways to begin healing:

• Speak affirmations aloud daily, even if your voice shakes

• Write letters to your younger self

• Validate your emotions before seeking approval from others

• Celebrate small wins without needing an audience

• Remind yourself daily: “I am enough, as I am.”

You are not here to perform to be loved.

You are loved — simply because you are.

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Affirmation Poem: “I No Longer Need Permission”

I no longer need permission to believe in me.

I no longer wait for claps to call it a victory.

I hold my younger self close —

the little girl who only wanted to be seen.

I see her now.

I hear her now.

I love her — out loud.

And that… is enough.

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Create Space for Your Inner Child’s Voice

If you’re ready to reconnect with your inner child,

Nurturing Your Inner Child Journal is a quiet, open space to begin.

It’s a soft, lined journal — waiting for your voice.

Use it to write letters to your inner child.

Track your emotions.

Capture your healing wins.

Or simply let your pain speak without interruption.

Sometimes healing doesn’t need structure — just space.

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The Healing Begins Inside You

Validation wounds aren’t healed overnight —

but they are healed with intentional love.

You don’t need everyone to understand you.

You only need to believe yourself,

trust your voice,

and honor the child within who still longs to feel seen.

Your healing is not a performance.

It’s a revolution.